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By: Daniela Asaro

Daniela Asaro — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 01:34:29 +0000

You know what? The man you thought had died – probably never existed in the first place. People who are chronic liars and cheats – know exactly how to portray an image of themselves that make others fall (and forgive). You were in love with what he wanted you to believe he was – not the real man.

Reminds me of a Neko Case line – “I want the Pharaohs, but there’s only men.” I’m glad you have resurfaced – I hope things continue getting better for you… After you hit rock bottom there’s only one direction to go from there, huh? ;)

By: Nyain in Spain

Nyain in Spain — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 18:21:44 +0000

The worst for me was just being lied to and that for all those years I was totally wrong about it. I think I was more upset at the fact that he wasn’t the man I thought he was. It felt as if the man I used to love had died because the person he had become was so unfamiliar. That’s the worst feeling. That I knew he could be good and had so much potential but he wasn’t strong enough.
And after months of doubting myself and having my confidence hit rock bottom and comparing myself to the other person, I’ve finally resurfaced.
Your post is somewhat of a relief to know that I wasn’t the only one who had been through this. I love this quote that says:

“No man deserves your tears but once you find one that is, he won’t make you cry”

By: Morgan

Morgan — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 17:53:48 +0000

No, no, no….it’s been over since 2/10/2010 with absolutely no contact whatsoever since. I did wear blinders with him…he was my first love (lost my viginity to him)–so, I knew him from 22 years ago. He certainly had me believing he was a changed man that had grown up. He played me, used me and threw me under the bus in the end. He was a completely typical married man having an affair…cake and eat it too…disreguard my feelings in the end kinda guy when all was said and done. A moment of ecstasy for a lifetime of agongy. My view of him is completely shattered—it turns my stomach. The view I have of myself in the aftermath of it all is distorted and shattered. I’m sure he’s moved along just fine and doesn’t think twice about me or what happened. It’s all sick. Affairs are sick.

By: Daniela Asaro

Daniela Asaro — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:29:45 +0000

Are you still in this situation? I hope not…You deserve more – and no matter what, he will never be anything like you thought he would be… You may have been hanging onto the first impression of him you received and blinded yourself from who he truly is.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 14:13:33 +0000

I had to come back and reread this. I wish I never experienced this either. The trauma to my mind and heart is just too much to bear. I remember laying in his arms and the realization that I was “temporary” struck me–he pacified me when I told him what was on my mind and well, all his words were lies. Words fell off his tongue with absolutely no meaning. I cannot comprehend how a man can feign a relationship (for a year in my case) and shove a woman off the ledge when he’s done with her and not run to catch her. I hit rock bottom. And…I can’t comprehend my own actions. Ugh. So, I can relate compeltely to every point you made.

By: Daniela Asaro

Daniela Asaro — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 10:42:16 +0000

Thanks Morgan for reading and your comment… Wish I never went through the experience in the first place, but glad to know others can relate…

By: Morgan

Morgan — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 02:47:55 +0000

Wow…that’s all I can say. WOW. Excellent post…seriously amazing and sooooo right on.